Death is a topic that most patients avoid to discuss especially in the midwifery department (Meilaender, 2013). The process of bringing a child into this world is a very complex process and sometimes death can occur to a mother at the time of giving birth (Meilaender, 2013). As a certified nurse midwife, I witness death regularly and this experience has shaped my view of death. The first patient to succumb to death that I first witnessed died after giving birth due to a severe blood loss and this experience impacted me heavily about the so much pain and suffering associated with death and no matter how hard we tried to attend to the patient, she eventually passed on. Most patients are afraid and resistant to die since most of them do not want to leave behind their newborn and their families (Meilaender, 2013).
This experience as a certified nurse midwife has shaped my view of death in that death is never a planned process and no one is ready for it (Shelly & Miller, 2006). Most patients are in constant denial and do not actually believe that it is their time to go regardless the fact that everyone has to go through the process of death (Shelly & Miller, 2006). Because of this, I try explaining to the patients about the process of giving birth and what negative effects are associated with the process no matter how difficult it is. This helps some patients, as they get closer to God through prayers, repentance, and preparing themselves mentally and psychologically (Shelly & Miller, 2006).
The most important aspect about death in the Christian background is that death is nothing but a transition to the next life where our God is and this fact encourages most of my patients who believe it is the will of God for what will happen next (Shelly & Miller, 2006). This experience has made it easier for me to accept the fact of death since no one is in control of his/her life. Just as no one made a decision to be born, so is no one in a position to decide when to leave the world and we just have to be prepared when the hour comes (Shelly & Miller, 2006).
Meilaender, G. (2013). Bioethics: A Primer for Christians. Grand Rapids, Mich: William B. Eerdmans Publishing Company.
Shelly, J. A., & Miller, A. B. (2006). Called to care: A Christian worldview for nursing. Downers Grove, Ill: IVP Academic/Intervarsity Press.